“It was one of those days when everything seemed to go wrong. I woke up late, couldn’t get everything done that I had planned, was exhausted, and stressed out”, says columnist Justin Bariso in an article for Inc. magazine. However, according to him, everything changed when he looked around and realized that his wife was just as tired as he was. “As soon as I saw her, I took a deep breath and decided I needed to help her as soon as possible.”
When Bariso turned his attention away from his problems and focused on helping his partner, his perspective changed. Instead of seeing only the things that did not go well in his day and taking adverse action, he directed his energy toward making his wife feel better. He cleaned the house, took care of the children, and hugged her. In the end, she was better, and he was feeling complete and peaceful for having helped her.
This is all part of the “help first” rule. According to this rule, when you are going through difficult situations, the best solution is to help other people. It may sound contradictory, but you can believe that it is a good way out. By being driven by empathy and not by your frustrations, you break the negativity cycle, and everyone feels better, including you.
When you can help someone, you feel valuable and valued. What’s more, usually the people you have helped in difficult situations will also help you when you need it. Therefore, an atmosphere of teamwork and solidarity is created, which is contagious.
So when you are stressed, focus your energy and mind on solidarity. Try to notice if other people around you need your help and help them first. In the end, everyone will win.